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Sunday, November 8, 2009
Arrogance. It is like a drug. It engages you deeply, it satisfies you, it gives you an overwhelming sense of superiority. However, like a drug, it stuns you, corrupts you, and worst of all, it stupefies you. Common misconception is that confidence and arrogance are the same, if not similar. However, in analogy, arrogance is just like a glass stairway you climb to reach your goals. When you look down you think that even though it's transparent, it is still there, but the truth is that when you get to too high a point, you lose your footing and find that your glass stairway was really non-existent in the first place.
Although different, confidence and arrogance do share a common element. That element is pride. Confidence consists of pride. Arrogance consists of pride. Confidence relates to the bold but rational regulation of pride, while arrogance points at the uncontrolled bursts of overestimation at one's worth. Confidence and arrogance are not parallels of each other, although many would like to think so. This might sound complex, but in fact it is not. Think about it this way, popularity does not equate to greatness, education might not necessarily portray intelligence, and knowledge does not always lead to application.
I prefer climbing a concrete stairway than a glass one, even though it is much more tedious, but I can safely descend my line of sight below my nose level and know that it is solid, and still there. The one thing about glass stairways of arrogance is that they often have little or no foundation at all, and one gentle nudge can bring it to a spectacular defeat. Confidence breeds security, arrogance begets the lack of security.
Ever heard of, "The box with the least coins makes the most noise"? If possible, try to make it a point to use this sentence as a guideline in life. Not forgetting, this says a lot about insecurity. Of course, this is different from some cases. Such as, I have friends who talk a lot, and I love them for that, but 'talk' comes in many forms. At least for many of them I know that they are just having fun with their endless chatter, nothing harmful. But anyway, back to point. As mentioned before in 'To Kill a Mockingbird', a man with morals does not take pride in the talents he has simply because it is wrong to do so. The more you try to justify and prove the skills you have, the more obvious it becomes that you do not have them. As said before, confidence is security, and people who feel secure about themselves do not have to specially slog to prove themselves to other people. Whatever they do in their daily lives will be enough to speak for themselves. The opposite of this is arrogance, the situation where some will secrete words of unease and try to pass it off as a high sense of self-esteem, when in fact it really is, just plain old insecurity.
The reason why I don't like to talk much is because one of my strongest principles is "Talk less, listen more." One would rather talk when the scenario deemed it absolutely required, than to display insecurity by 'showcasing' your abilities by talking about them when no one is interested in listening. After saying so much, I would like to reinforce that everyone's definition of 'confidence' and 'arrogance' are so very different. What you've seen in this post today are nothing more than my own mere thoughts, the rest is up for you to judge and decide. The skill involved in being able to do this will mean a lot in later life, when judging the characters of different people will become all the more critical. On a final note, just remember, "Every man is entitled to his own opinion, no matter what."
Although different, confidence and arrogance do share a common element. That element is pride. Confidence consists of pride. Arrogance consists of pride. Confidence relates to the bold but rational regulation of pride, while arrogance points at the uncontrolled bursts of overestimation at one's worth. Confidence and arrogance are not parallels of each other, although many would like to think so. This might sound complex, but in fact it is not. Think about it this way, popularity does not equate to greatness, education might not necessarily portray intelligence, and knowledge does not always lead to application.
I prefer climbing a concrete stairway than a glass one, even though it is much more tedious, but I can safely descend my line of sight below my nose level and know that it is solid, and still there. The one thing about glass stairways of arrogance is that they often have little or no foundation at all, and one gentle nudge can bring it to a spectacular defeat. Confidence breeds security, arrogance begets the lack of security.
Ever heard of, "The box with the least coins makes the most noise"? If possible, try to make it a point to use this sentence as a guideline in life. Not forgetting, this says a lot about insecurity. Of course, this is different from some cases. Such as, I have friends who talk a lot, and I love them for that, but 'talk' comes in many forms. At least for many of them I know that they are just having fun with their endless chatter, nothing harmful. But anyway, back to point. As mentioned before in 'To Kill a Mockingbird', a man with morals does not take pride in the talents he has simply because it is wrong to do so. The more you try to justify and prove the skills you have, the more obvious it becomes that you do not have them. As said before, confidence is security, and people who feel secure about themselves do not have to specially slog to prove themselves to other people. Whatever they do in their daily lives will be enough to speak for themselves. The opposite of this is arrogance, the situation where some will secrete words of unease and try to pass it off as a high sense of self-esteem, when in fact it really is, just plain old insecurity.
The reason why I don't like to talk much is because one of my strongest principles is "Talk less, listen more." One would rather talk when the scenario deemed it absolutely required, than to display insecurity by 'showcasing' your abilities by talking about them when no one is interested in listening. After saying so much, I would like to reinforce that everyone's definition of 'confidence' and 'arrogance' are so very different. What you've seen in this post today are nothing more than my own mere thoughts, the rest is up for you to judge and decide. The skill involved in being able to do this will mean a lot in later life, when judging the characters of different people will become all the more critical. On a final note, just remember, "Every man is entitled to his own opinion, no matter what."
